PERSON CENTRED THERAPY
WHY THERAPY WORKS
...and how it can benefit your life
INSIGHT LEADS TO CHANGED BEHAVIOUR
In order to make good choices we must first know what we are choosing. Many of us live hectic lives with little opportunity to stop and reflect on the decisions we are making. We act with reflexive responses and outdated patterns leaving us feeling stuck, dissatisfied and powerless to change. Taking time to pause and examine what you are doing and why, can help you become more aware of the causes of your actions and their effects. Discovering why you behave in certain ways and what you are trying to achieve can help you understand your own influence over the issues you are facing. Making time for these reflections and discussing them in therapy can help you gain a better insight and understanding of yourself. With this knowledge you can be empowered to make more conscious and deliberate choices leading to greater control over your own life.
OPENING UP BRINGS RELIEF
It is not uncommon to feel reluctant or embarrassed to share feelings with other people, even those we are closest to. Many of us find it difficult to know when it is appropriate to share feelings, how much to say or the right words to use. It can often feel easier to just avoid this all together. However, carrying stress, worry or other intense feelings is know to have a negative affect on our health. Holding things in can leave us feeling drained, overwhelmed and lacking in vitality. We may have trouble sleeping, difficulty focusing or want to avoid people all together. Speaking with someone who is trained to help can bring great relief. The act of unburdening yourself, while daunting, often leaves people feeling liberated and more able to cope with the difficulties they are facing. Speaking to someone who is comfortable hearing your feelings and trained to help you manage them can not only bring perspective to your problems but also give you back the strength needed to address them. Through being more open, the energy we may have used to contain or deny our feelings is freed up to help with the solution.
RELATIONSHIP IS KEY
The human brain is wired for connection. Relationships with other people are essential for our wellbeing and necessary to live a meaningful life. During childhood the interaction between ourselves and our caregivers shapes the way our brain grows, affecting how we engage with other people and respond to certain situations. Like a road map our brain tracks what we learn about the world and maps our various behaviours and where they take us. The most well worn paths become our most reliable ways of engaging with the world in order to get our needs met and avoid harm. If we received parenting that was less than ideal, then we may be following a map that is upside down. Fortunately, our brains are not fixed and continue to change and develop across our lifetime. A therapeutic relationship is one where new ideas and behaviours can be explored safely in order to undo some of our prior learning and experiment with new and more fulfilling ways of being. Practicing honest self expression with someone who is impartial and non-judgemental can help you to discover ways of speaking, acting, and relating that feel most natural and comfortable for you. Through this you can establish what parts of your map are valuable and lead you somewhere you want to go and what parts need to be erased and re-explored.
YOU CAN HANDLE THE TRUTH
What is inside of us is often more real than what is outside of us. It is not uncommon for people to feel conflicted in their sense of self or to act very differently in different situations. This is a fundamental part of being human and actually helps us maintain our social relationships and live in cooperation with others. We are multi-dimensional and can use the different aspects of our personalities to form healthy relationships with our colleagues, our partners and our children. However it can become confusing and stressful when these roles are overly restrictive. We can find ourselves doing things we don’t agree with or saying things we don’t believe in order to keep the peace or to get by. When what we think and feel inside is wildly different from what we say and do outside we are bound to be unhappy. Talking to someone who is willing to listen can support you to be more honest with yourself and figure out how you truly feel about your relationships and your circumstances. Telling the truth, if even to yourself, is a powerful force for change. The more able we are to speak and act in accordance with the truth, the more comfortable we will feel in our own skin. And the closer we can get to the truth of our own needs the more able we are to meet them.
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”